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Reflection of Day 1 - Self-Love Challenge

Day 1 (March 1st): Acknowledging My Goods.  Today the participants wrote 20 things we were grateful for about ourselves on strips of colorful paper and we put it in our "I AM Love" jars.  We will draw from this jar every morning during the challenge and will choose to BE more of that person over the course of the day.  We will continue to add to this jar regularly, and draw from it when you are feeling like we aren't "enough of something".

It was fun doing this exercise! I realized that I have a lot to offer and I am in fact LOVE.

Join the Challenge. Choose YOU. 

30-Day Self-Love Challenge. Are you DOWN!??

I decided to create a 30-Day Self-Love Challenge during Women's History Month because I often found myself seeking refuge in someone else to fulfill me – to make me happy – to motivate me to do this, and to do that.  

I have complained about others not being committed (to their word, to their work, to me, to…you name it).  I have been frustrated with others not being committed to me, not doing what they said they would do, not being there for me the way they said they would be there for me. 

However I had no idea that the very thing we are most frustrated with can be, and often is, a direct result of what we ourselves are not doing – for ourselves.  We often look outside of ourselves to be fulfilled, and if we continue to do this, we will continue to fight a never-ending battle, and therefore we will never be satisfied, we will never be fulfilled because we expect someone else to be the source of our own happiness and well-being. 

This challenge is about choosing ourselves first. It is about loving ourselves so that we can generate our own sense of joy at any moment, regardless of our circumstance, and regardless if someone wants to join in with us.  This challenge is about standing inside of our commitment to ourselves.  This challenge is an opportunity for us to commit to ourselves so that we can stop complaining about why others aren’t committed to, or committing to us.  As soon as we are committed to ourselves, others will be committed to us. As soon as we love ourselves, we will only attract love. 

24 women have committed to participating in this challenge with me. We will support each other throughout the journey. If you are interested....email me! Akua@EmpowerMeGNEP.org.

Day 1 (March 1st): Acknowledging My Goods.  First thing this morning, write 20 things you are grateful for about your self on strips of colorful paper and put it in your "I AM Love" jar.  Draw from this jar every morning during this challenge and choose to BE more of that person during the day.  Moving forward, add to this jar regularly, and draw from it when you are feeling like you aren't ____(fill in the blank).

Join the Challenge. Choose YOU. 

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The Love Within

Sometimes we have so much love to give, we are afraid to let people know how much love we hold within us.  Instead, we choose to deny our love to everyone. Yet, whom is this helping?  Your choice to not step into your “love overalls” impacts the masses.  The people that need you the most are void of all that you have to offer to humanity.  You are absent – from the masses, and most importantly, from yourself.

Why have you chosen to be absent?

Can you choose differently today?

The Face of Worried Souls

For those that are worry-warts, this is a powerful quote from Iyanla Vanzant.  Let go of your worry and live NOW.

“Worry is the vampire that drains life of its force. Worry stagnates the mind, creates an imbalance in the immune system; weakens the throat, your power, and authority center; impairs the ability to see beyond the thing being worried about. We worry about things we cannot control. We worry about the past and future. We worry about those things we cannot do or have not done and how they will affect what we are doing right now. We worry about what we do not have, cannot get and things we have lost. Worry creates confusion, disorder, and helplessness. Then we worry because we cannot figure things out. We must eliminate the tendency to worry without worrying if it will work out. Take the situation creating the worry, briefly and concisely write it down. Place the paper on which you have written in a window, facing the sun. Make a commitment to yourself to let it go and move on. Everyone knows that when sunlight hits a vampire, it shrivels up and then it is gone.”

~ Iyanla Vanzant ~

Shift Happens

I feel a shift occurring within me.  Not a symbolic shift, but an actual shift.  My joints feel different, my hands look different, my spirit feels different, my heart is different, my soul is different.  Yet I am NOT different.  I am shifting. I am evolving. I am stepping into the person I have always known myself to be.

This shift did not just happen over night. It has been a process. An exciting process, but a process none the less. Some things have turned out lovely, some things have been surprising and not what I expected.  Yet within it, I understand.  I understand the why. I understand that sometimes it just is what it is.  There is no need to try and figure things out all the time.  What should be considered, is how I respond to certain things and why I respond that way.  Growth has nothing to do with what others are doing or saying, and everything to do with me.  I  am responsible for my growth, for my shift. I have to take responsibility for what is going on around me and for how people are or are not responding to me.

Its time to WAKE UP people! Stop blaming others for your discomfort, your unhappiness, your miserableness, your discontent, your feelings of pain.  It is YOUR stuff! "Your" is the operative word! So why are you waiting for someone else to apologize, or to make you feel better?  Create your own happiness and stop waiting on others. Take responsibility.  Stop complaining and start your shifting process.